Cat Calling (FREE POST)

“Hey there pretty lady.”

“Smile!”

“Nice {insert female body part}!”

“Can I get your number?”

“Hey you! You dropped something….my heart!”

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As a woman living in New York City, these are all lines and tactics I’ve grown used to. A high number of females have been hunted, like prey on the streets…by men who think they are doing them a favor (making them feel sexy). But cat calling has the opposite effect. Women who have come forward to authorities say it’s, skin-crawling, gut-wrenching, inappropriate, embarrassing, scary, and down right disgusting.

Most men have gone as far as justifying their behavior by saying that they can’t control themselves. “It’s a natural instinct. Plus, girls want to feel sexy…they want us to give them attention. Am I right?” Wrong! To assume that every woman that crosses your path, desperately wants your attention is ridiculous. In these situations, most women are visibly frightened by the aggressor, or they actively avoid groups of men (by crossing the street, or looking down at the floor).

Most of these men have the tendency to say what’s on their mind…but, the truth is that we do not want to hear it! And depending on how you handle the situation, things can turn for the worse. Why has this behavior become a social norm among men? Why is it okay, for a man to call a woman provocative names, and go as far as making her feel like an object? Clearly they have daughters, sisters, and mothers of their own. How would they feel if another man was ogling their precious loved ones? The issue here, is that women are seen as objects alone. Women are symbols…sex symbols. Unless men start to open their eyes to how harmful their behavior is, cat calling will continue to escalate. Unfortunately, females have to put up with being howled at like pieces of meat for now. “AWOOOOOOOOOOOOGAAAA!”

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To look further into how men justify cat calling, check out this video. Here is the very disturbing film on “Why Guys Do It.” 

Taja Dove (tajawaja)

 

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Survival of the Prettiest

Am I pretty enough? This is a probably a question most women ask themselves every single day, and for some reason the answer to this question will somehow validate our existence. Beauty standards is a topic that all women either love or hate to talk about, and it’s something that, when you really think about it, isn’t even a real concept. We’ve seen it all over the media. The juxtaposed ad of “how to get the perfect summer body” right next to an ad about “how to love the skin you’re in”. Women are told to aspire to be a size 0 and in the same breath they ask women why they don’t love themselves. Are women really only useful for providing visual pleasure that we need to know all the right steps to being valued in society? The media is basically telling us that women are worth what they look like. But what is considered pretty or beautiful? Why does the media only have one concept of what beauty is and is trying to fit women into this pigeonhole of a beauty standard? In fact, the media has created a standard of beauty that isn’t even possible to achieve due to the magic of PhotoShop. Society has created this ideal standard of what a woman should be instead of valuing a woman for other reasons. This article shows several ways how the beauty industry has marketed their products in a way that tells women that they aren’t good enough. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04/29/beauty-industry-women_n_5127078.html. It’s very interesting to think about, but I believe that as long as you are comfortable with the way you are and you are healthy, that is what makes a woman beautiful.

Modeling Consumption

Wissenger’s article, “Modeling Consumption” discusses the modeling career and what goes on behind the scenes. Everyone knows that models are used for marketing, but what many people don’t know is that they are also selling a lifestyle along with their product. When the model in the picture appears to be rich and glamorous, the consumer will be enticed to purchase the product in order to obtain that same rich and glamorous lifestyle. Because of this, and the fact that the models’ appearances are what makes them money, models are constantly working. Simply getting a haircut or manicure affects the lifestyle they are selling because it is changing their appearance and therefore becomes a part of their job. 

Recently a new jewelry line designed by sisters Danielle and Jodie Snyder talked about how their jewelry line has become so successful because of the fact that they sell a lifestyle along with their products. The two sisters often post pictures of themselves wearing the jewelry while their on tropical vacations or going out at night to big parties. Their jewelry is also worn by several celebrities which is also a way to sell a lifestyle along with their line. This is the link to the article I found: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/02/07/fashion/dannijo-sells-jewelry-and-a-lifestyle-a-picture-at-a-time.html?smid=pl-share. I believe what they are doing is extremely smart because they are subtle in the way they do it. Instead of throwing their product in everyone’s faces on social media, they simply wear their jewelry in their photos. 

The Presence of Ethnocentrism

Core Concepts discusses what our society is still guilty of today…judging others based on misconceptions of their group and labeling them as “inferior.” This phenomenon is known as ethnocentrism. As human beings, we have the tendency to become quite “cliquey” and take pride in own our established groups. This behavior leaves us with the various conflicts that we still face today; miscommunication, misinterpretation, and the justification of absurd actions. However, there is a way in which we can prevent such elitism and exclusion; by getting to know one another, and taking the time to understand other cultures.

Not so long ago, a woman by the name of Amy Cua (a Yale Law School professor) has sparked a national debate with her book titled “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother.” Cua wrote about the success of each group based only on their culture and values, and why they are superior to other groups. The book defines traits that make different cultural groups successful in America, without measuring who actually becomes successful, and what defines success on a personal level. Amy Cua declares that money, fame, and power are the red flags of success, while bashing those who she considers inferior based on these conditions. In addition to making misconceptions, she makes a list of the cultural groups in which she believes will most likely not be successful, therefore singling them out. Here is a link to the article. ‘Triple Package’: Controversial book outlines ‘unlikely’ traits of success. Are her actions even justifiable?